Misused Term: Consequences!
Consequences are not what we think they are. Consequences are simply the variety of results or outcomes that naturally occur in the wake of a behavior. For example, you step out onto thin ice and fall through. The consequences of which could be that you get wet, get cold, drown, swim, laugh and have fun, etc. You may be rescued by a stranger -- fall in love, get married, have children, and so on. The variety of natural outcomes can be all negative, all positive, or a mixture. Consequences can be experienced immediately following the behavior (fall through ice - get wet) or be experienced many years later (rescued by stranger - have children). Smoking cigarettes can have immediate positive consequences (calming) and negative long-term consequences (cancer). As the responsible adults working to manage behavioral situations, we typically have little or no control over the consequences that occur and no control over how they are perceived by th...