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The Impact of Narcissitic Leaders

 The impact of a narcissistic leader on the workplace can be significant and often detrimental, creating a toxic environment that affects morale, productivity, and overall organizational health. While some might initially perceive their confidence and vision as strengths, the negative aspects of their personality tend to outweigh any potential benefits in the long run.

Negative Impacts:

·      Decreased Employee Morale and Job Satisfaction: Narcissistic leaders often lack empathy, are poor listeners, and prioritize their own needs above their employees'. This can lead to feelings of being undervalued, ignored, and demotivated among team members.


·      Increased Stress and Burnout: Working under a narcissistic leader can be highly stressful. Their demands for constant admiration, micromanagement, unpredictable behavior, and tendency to blame others create a pressure-cooker environment, leading to increased burnout and decreased well-being.


·      Poor Communication and Collaboration: Narcissistic leaders tend to dominate conversations, dismiss others' ideas, and are resistant to feedback. This stifles open communication, hinders collaboration, and can lead to a lack of trust within the team.


·      High Employee Turnover: The negative work environment fostered by narcissistic leaders often results in higher rates of absenteeism and turnover as employees seek healthier and more supportive workplaces. This constant churn can be costly and disruptive to the organization.


·      Reduced Productivity and Innovation: When employees feel stressed, unappreciated, and afraid to voice their opinions, their productivity and creativity suffer. The focus shifts from achieving organizational goals to navigating the leader's ego and unpredictable behavior.


·      Culture of Fear and Silence: Narcissistic leaders often react poorly to criticism and may even retaliate against those who challenge them. This creates a culture of fear where employees are hesitant to speak up, raise concerns, or offer innovative ideas.


·      Unethical Behavior: Driven by self-interest and a sense of entitlement, narcissistic leaders may engage in unethical behaviors, such as taking credit for others' work, blaming others for their mistakes, or even engaging in fraudulent activities.


·      Damaged Organizational Reputation: Over time, the negative internal culture and potential ethical lapses under a narcissistic leader can damage the organization's reputation externally, affecting its ability to attract talent, customers, and investors.


·      Legal Issues: The manipulative and sometimes abusive behavior of narcissistic leaders can lead to increased instances of workplace bullying, discrimination claims, and lawsuits against the organization.


·      Erosion of Trust and Integrity: The self-serving actions and lack of transparency from a narcissistic leader erode trust and undermine the integrity of the organization's values and culture.


Potential (Short-Term) Positive Impacts (Often Superficial)


·      Strong Vision (Initially): Some narcissistic leaders can articulate a compelling vision and inspire initial enthusiasm due to their confidence and charisma. However, this vision often serves their own ambition.


·      Decisive Action: Their strong opinions and desire to be in control can lead to quick decision-making, although these decisions may not always be well-thought-out or in the best interest of the organization.


·      Risk-Taking: Their overconfidence might lead them to take bold risks, which can occasionally result in short-term gains, but also carry a higher potential for significant failures.


While a narcissistic leader might initially bring a sense of excitement or a bold vision to the workplace, their lack of empathy, self-centeredness, and manipulative tendencies typically create a toxic and ultimately damaging environment for employees and the organization as a whole. The long-term consequences almost always outweigh any fleeting positive impressions.


Begin, Wherever You Are

It's never too late or too soon.

Wherever you are in your parenting journey, whether with newborn child or young adult, begin teaching problem solving skills, thinking skills, and verbal reasoning skills.


Problem Solving, Thinking, & Verbal Reasoning

There are other important skills (like, how to do laundry, dishes, math, and weak-side layups), but these are the Big Three. All are skills. All are taught, coached, encouraged, trained, and ... practiced, practiced, practiced to mastery over time.

Please keep in mind that skills are increased gradually, incrementally over time only through repetitive practice.

Practice to mastery is the only path to skill development, the only path forward.

We will work toward developing these skills (problem-solving, thinking, verbal reasoning) by practicing on a regular basis the *Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) process developed by Dr. Ross Greene. This process can and should be practiced during all routine problems and more urgent behavioral disruptions.

Patience Required

To begin this process focus first on engaging with your child in empathic, non-judgmental conversations about her perspective on various problems and concerns, working to develop a sense of trust in her that she can safely share her views with you without fear of being criticized, dismissed, or invalidated. 


Listen carefully, for deep understanding. Thank her for sharing her views. 

Tell her you will think about what she has shared and agree to come back to talk with her after you have had the opportunity to think things over. This is a great way to model and practice delayed gratification. 

Do not allow the situation to devolve into argument and hostility. Just listen carefully. If you begin to feel frustration. Say so, then take space and calm down. Promise to come back when you are feeling calmer. See post "Calm Down & Take Space".

Trust is the essential ingredient in developing the type of relationship with your child that will be open to a collaborative problem-solving process and behavior change. Mistrust leads to defensiveness and resistance to change.

Open communication built on trust is the cornerstone piece of the process. Developing and maintaining a trusting relationship will enable you to build / re-build and strengthen an empathic connection with your child.

Note: Parental Burnout

A loss of adult-to-child empathy (burnout) is a very typical problem parents (and staff) experience with behavioral children. The adults are gradually worn down, exhausted by the continuous demands and difficulties, but this decrease in empathic connection (heightened frustration, anger, discouragement) increases the likelihood of ever more severe behavioral difficulties. 


Think quicksand. 

Unless you are able to take a step back, to reconnect with your long-term vision and rebuild your capacity to see the whole child, you will get sucked deeper and deeper into the quagmire.

It is important that we move toward a “non-punitive, non-adversarial, collaborative, proactive, skill-building, relationship-enhancing” approach; reconnecting with love and empathy.


*Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) is the non-punitive, non-adversarial, trauma-informed model of care Dr. Greene originated and describes in his various books, including The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings.


Kenneth H. Little, MA / 135 Lee Brook Road / Thornton, NH 03285 / 603-726-1006 / Achieve-ES.com

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