Re-establishing Boundaries
A quick note. A friend is struggling with her adult children. They seem to have very little recognition that she is a distinct, separate human being. Reflecting on this problem and considering my personal and professional experiences with this sort of issue, I thought I'd write a quick note. First, I had similar struggles as a parent. My experience was confused and convoluted by the death of my wife when our boys were young so it might be a little different than your experience, but it'll be worth considering. Boundaries: the basic idea is that we are each separate and unique human beings. This may seem infinitely obvious but it's really not. When an infant is born, he / she came out of their mother. For some period of time ... these two (or more) individuals were not separate and distinct. Infants may be newly separate and distinct individuals, but they are clearly entirely dependent on their caretaker/s. Toddlers....